This last spring I started writing a book called, NO FEAR IN LOVE. I've interviewed hundreds of students, parents, and people I just interact with to understand the depth of where Fear actually has a stranglehold on us. What I found is nothing short of AMAZING!!
Fear Has Paralyzed People to Talk about Issues Near to Them
It's not like Horror film fear, it's fear of what tomorrow is going to bring. It's fear of rejection. It's fear I won't know the outcome, and I'm out of control. Fear is actually crippling our lives meant to be abundant are now reduced to cowardliness. After talking with a group of leaders in the North East, I found every one of them, no matter what background they had, were scared to death to bring up what they all agreed was the core of their character...FAITH.
"Why would you not bring it up. Isn't faith something you would say is valuable in your life?"
And while shaking their heads in agreement, I heard several of them talk about how the work environment didn't suit itself for 'evangelism.'
"Nobody's talking about sharing the four spiritual laws here." I said.
But I continued to run into the road block of segregation.
Most people of faith in American have found a way to compartmentalize their faith and their fear. They put faith in a box and unless they feel comfortable to talk with like minded people, they don't want to offend anyone.
We're scared we might offend someone by offering them the most interesting compelling conversation about current events, cultural depth, or even personal struggle?
What you can rest assured to know about the people you're rubbing shoulders with RIGHT NOW is they are all going through something, and they need someone to go through it with them. It's not weird to just go and be a human to someone else. You can share with them in pain, celebrate with them in success, and just do what friends do.
This fear thing is continuing to propel me into new conversations, because once I dig down deep and find out what my own fears are, there's a counter intuitive process that builds more confidence in my own soul. I'm working to help others find that place so they don't have to be afraid anymore.